I don't apologize. I meant everything that I said. It is what it is. Most of my comments were in general and not directed totally at Tony. Tony knows that I like him, and that I have said over and over that the guys need to stop running over him when he tries to talk in game, and all of that. My comments about a healer came mostly from my own experiences in similar situations. I can't speak for your game, because I am not there, but I absolutely believe everything I said.
Like I said previously, I have been in games where players are literally inactive. Lem or Jimmy would go to them, and they would take so long to make a decision on their actions, that they'd get passed over, and literally just be standing in one spot doing nothing in the middle of battle. I have also experienced the usual tank guys raging in battle, taking hit after hit, and when it goes to other party members they say that they literally hide in the stairwell.... like literally say "I hide in the stairwell." WTF???????
So my opinion and frustration is based on experiences I have had. In the forum it was inferred that Tony took the NPC healer and went to another room during an encounter.... If that happened, every player that took hits without being healed has a right to say WHAT THE FUCK??????
Role playing is not a soft comfy experience. I learned that in my first ever campaign.
If I hurt your feelings, Tony, I am sorry. But it is being related in this form that you literally weren't even in the room during encounters. So that is why I took the position I did.